There are times when I consider myself to be a loser. I know that nearly everyone I’ve ever talked to goes through this at some point. There’s always something about ourselves we find lacking… something which makes us a loser in those areas. When it comes to doing outdoors-y things, I’m definitely in that particular class. It’s no secret that I’m not an athlete. I don’t much like boating or hiking – and we’ve established I’m not very good at either of them. However, I am quite confident in other areas of my life. I wouldn’t say that I’m an overall loser, and neither are most people I come in contact with. I wish I could say the same about everyone I connect with or come across.
Sadly, I see a lot of douchebags on the Internet during my travels around the web each day. These particular people are in a class all alone, and I would be more than willing to outright point the big LOSER sign at them. What earns them this less-than-prestigious title? I’m not only referring to comment trolls or those who have nothing better to do than spew anonymous venom around the Net. I’m talking about the ones we may bump into at an event, or the ones who insist on trying to dominate the conversation during an online chat. You know who I’m talking about, right?
It’s easy to be this type of loser: you simply have to yap your trap endlessly about topics which you know nothing about to people who don’t really care. Let’s rephrase that a bit, shall we? One of the fastest ways to be dismissed by your peers is to run your mouth and attempt to talk over everyone in a given situation. This is even more true if you don’t really know what you’re talking about. Others are going to see right through you – and stop listening to you – if you try to BS your way through by dancing around the real topic.
You want to be accepted and respected? It’s simple: learn when to speak and when to hush. Listening is just as important – if not MORE so – than talking. This holds true in both business and social situations. You’re not going to appear more intelligent if you talk a lot. Make sure people want to hear what you have to say. Watch their body language – it’s a great cue as to whether they’re truly interested. Stop for breath once in a while, and ask their opinions on the subject at hand. Make sure you’re actually paying attention to their answer… you may just learn something new.
Being a loser isn’t about not being the best at what you do and know. It’s a state of mind – YOUR mind.