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Does Your Cell Phone Make You Rude?

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Back in the day, we tended to focus more on what the person across from us was saying vs. what the person on our phone that we couldn’t see was saying. Nowadays we check email, tweets, texts, calls, etc., and in social situations, this can seem extremely rude. Mashable tackled this in an article yesterday on ending social rudeness by putting your phone away. Lamarr has definite opinions as to what constitutes phone rudeness.

The problem, of course, is that constantly perusing your phone is freaking rude — a clear signal that your reception is more important than anything going on in the here and now. Get this: 10% of people 24 and younger think it’s OK to text during sex, according to consumer electronics shopping and review site Retrevo. That brings a whole meaning to the term multitasking.

When do you feel it is “okay” to grab your phone and give it more attention than you do those around you? Is it ever a good idea? Do YOU know when it’s time to turn that device off and just forget it even exists?

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Are You Too Polite?

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An article on The Consumerist discussed customer service reps that are infuriatingly polite that they make you scream! Would you rather have an overly polite rep or a person who can just get to the point?

Lamarr has some very definite opinions as to how a customer service representative should act. Yes, they should be polite. However, they shouldn’t be SO polite that it makes you want to gag every time you have to call. They shouldn’t repeat every single word you say. Just tell me how to fix the problem, already!

What do you think? Have we as a society become so jaded that it drives us bonkers when others are actually polite and kind?

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How to Deal With YouTube Haters

Jon has some excellent advice for those of you just getting started on YouTube. Too often, people give up before they even really get started producing content due to the haters and idiots you’ll find running amok in the comment threads. You have to remember that no matter what you do or how good you are, there are going to be negative – and even hurtful – comments. The complete anonymity that YouTube commenters have leads itself to them posting things they would likely never say to someone’s face.

You’ll get rude comments, racial slurs, and sometimes even threats to your safety and well-being. You have to develop a thick skin if you’re going to read your comments, and realize that they mean nothing in the grand scheme of things. Negative feedback on YouTube videos has nothing to do with who you are as a person and what you’re doing with your life. Don’t let them wear you down.

There are several tools at your disposal. You can delete comments you find offensive or undesirable. You can vote them down so that they eventually disappear on their own. You can even block the worst offenders completely, disallowing any future comments from them. You’ll find that as you start blocking these people that the overall comments in your future videos will start to improve.

You will also get some positive stuff, of course, and even serious feedback. You’ll want to take the constructive criticism and ask yourself how you can use it to make what you’re trying to do even better. Don’t expect everything to be positive and that everyone will love you. It’s never going to happen.

Take in what people say, discard that which does not help you, and learn from the rest. You can also check out my Top YouTube Tips eBook for more information to help you be successful on the popular video site.

Do You Welcome Conversation from Rude People?

Last night, I wrote here on my blog about people interrupting conversations, and asked for comments as to how to filter out “noise”. I’ve received several follow-up comments and emails today, and I appreciate them. I want to use some of them to facilitate even more discussion, so keep your eyes open for that in the coming days.

Kevin was one person who wrote in, talking about his disgust with people who are rude, and who try to force their opinions on him. He makes several very good points, and I wanted to share them with the community.

I read your recent article on how people often get involved in flaming other people’s online discussions, and thought about that for awhile.

On one hand, I am on your side totally because I like healthy debate and I respect that any other person has a right to an opinion. What I object to is when a person is influential in some way, and figures they can command changes that many of us mere mortals do not support or like.

When this happens, who is right… and who is wrong? The answer is that both camps are, because whatever they are discussing and supporting matters to them. One is not “wrong” because of something they believe in. Just because it is different than what I think or believe, does not mean that I feel a person is wrong.

People who add to discussions online often need to remember that much of what they say is a matter of personal opinion. So often, I don’t even see people bother to try and back up what they claim with any type of cold, hard facts or evidence. Unfortunately a lot of modern day computing is personal taste and I resent someone else trying to force their idea of what works for them down my throat.

I have made significant effort to try and work with Windows 7. I don’t like it very well, but I expect I will have little choice going forward. Sadly, the Windows 7 lovers are too busy trying to shove the product down my throat to stop and listen to what I have to say about the operating system. I am 58 years old, and have worked in IT for more than 30 years. I may be a plodder, but am also a survivor. I value the views and opinions I make through proper testing, solid analysis and a bit of “personal taste” thrown in for good measure.

The fact is that I don’t really like Windows 7. I find a few very large flaws with it for people who are used to XP. There is a problem with not properly upgrading from XP to Windows 7 that is not being addressed as far as I can see. There is no classic start bar feature as we would expect. There is also no repair/restore feature like XP had. These things are killer omissions for die-hard XP users.

When I attempt to talk to people who are touting Windows 7 as the next great product of all time, they don’t want to hear what I have to say. They don’t want any opinion that differs from their own. I get flamed for daring to speak out against the o/s in any way. It’s very annoying to have made an informed opinion, based on facts and evidence, only to be told to basically shut up and go away. My opinion doesn’t count to many people, simply because they feel they are right.

When will people wake up, and remember to respect other people’s views, and take the time to learn more themselves by welcoming opinions that are different than theirs?

Kevin is right. Too often these days, people don’t like to listen to things that are outside of their comfort zone. They don’t want to hear anything that goes against what they think is “right”.

What are your thoughts on this? Are you finding yourself up against a seemingly endless stream of negativity at every turn, or are there only a handful of us experiencing this?

Do you Practice Proper Mobile Phone Etiquette?

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We’re all guilty at some point or another. We break one of the golden rules of phone etiquette. Come on… admit it. You do it too! Here are Gordon’s top five ways to become an annoying mobile phone user. DON’T do these!

  • When talking to a friend face to face and the phone rings, abruptly stop talking and answer the phone, and talk as long as you like. It doesn’t matter if it ‘s your mother, your boss or a salesman trying to sell something. Your friend will understand.
  • Leave your ringer turned up while at movies, church, or funerals. When the inevitable phone call comes in and everyone has to listen to the latest rap or country song try not to be noticed as you fumble to turn it off. Everyone will understand.
  • Talk on your phone while driving, weave in and out of traffic lanes, stop abruptly, tailgate and force other cars out of their lanes, while glaring at the other drivers with a “Can’t you see I’m on the phone?” expression. The other drivers will understand.
  • Send text messages and treat them as if they were some kind of top secret military information that if anyone saw them the security of our nation would be compromised. When receiving a humorus text, laugh loudly and don’t tell anyone what is so funny. They’ll understand.
  • Brag to your friend how much better your new phone is than everybody elses, and try not to look too disappointed when a month later your friend gets one that is cheaper and has more features. You’ll understand.


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