Chris Pirillo » victim http://chris.pirillo.com News and Reviews! Geek, Internet Entrepreneur, Hardware Addict, Software Junkie, Book Author, Once TV Show Host, Technology Enthusiast, Shameless Self-Promoter, Tech Conference Coordinator, Early Adopter, Idea Evangelist, Tech Support Blogger, Bootstrapper, Media Personality, Technology Consultant, Thicker Quicker Picker Upper. Wed, 25 Nov 2009 10:04:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 en hourly 1 © chris@pirillo.com () chris@pirillo.com() Geek, Internet Entrepreneur, Hardware Addict, Software Junkie, Book Author, Once TV Show Host, Technology Enthusiast, Shameless Self-Promoter, Tech Conference Coordinator, Early Adopter, Idea Evangelist, Tech Support Blogger, Bootstrapper, Media Personality, Technology Consultant, Thicker Quicker Picker Upper. chris@pirillo.com No no http://chris.pirillo.com/wp-content/plugins/podpress/images/powered_by_podpress.jpgChris Pirillohttp://chris.pirillo.com 144 144 Are You a Bully or a Victim?http://chris.pirillo.com/are-you-a-bully-or-a-victim/ http://chris.pirillo.com/are-you-a-bully-or-a-victim/#comments Wed, 30 Jul 2008 05:07:26 +0000 Chris http://chris.pirillo.com/?p=7725 Are You a Bully or a Victim? is a post from Chris Pirillo


Add to iTunes | Add to YouTube | Add to Google | RSS Feed

A bully is a bully, no matter who or where they are. It doesn’t matter if they are online, or out there in the “real” world. I’ve suffered at the mouths and hands of a bully in my life. As soon as I accepted myself for who I am and not who they thought or said I am, it no longer bothered me. They were the ones with the problem, not me. You’ve probably been the victim of a cyber-bully at some point. They are everywhere, since the anonymity of the Internet makes it easy for them to attack people. If you’re someone who attacks people and makes them ashamed of who they are, stop it! There’s no easier way to lose my respect, than to disrespect someone else.

Kyle sent me the following email, and his list of top five tips to deal with bullies.

I recently was told by someone on Facebook that I was a loser and had no friends, along with many other hurtful comments. I decided to create this list in an attempt to help others deal with bullies.

  1. Be Mature How bad would it sound if you responded: “OMG ur da real luzer, I h8 you”. Instead, you may want to respond “I’m sorry you feel that way about me, I guess you don’t really know me”, or something along those lines.
  2. Don’t Even Respond If you respond, it will just give the bully another thing to find a way to make fun of.
  3. Block Communications There is a way on all forms of cyber communication to block a person or persons, so why keep talking to them?
  4. Don’t let it get you down You should never let them win by letting them put you down, understand that they don’t mean what they’re saying, and that they are just trying to make themselves feel better.
  5. In some circumstances, confront them If they’re not known to be the kind of person who would physically beat you up, you may want to ask them why they have a problem with you in real life, because it is so much harder to say mean things about people in real life than it is when they are not directly talking to you.

Kyle has made many excellent point. Remember that the problem lies with the bully, not with you. Don’t let someone beat you up mentally, and force you to feel awful about yourself. It’s not about you… it’s about them. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that maybe they’re right. Accept and like yourself who you are. Don’t listen to people who don’t know you, yet try to bring you down with negativity.

Want to embed this video on your own site, blog, or forum? Use this code:

]]> Are You a Bully or a Victim? is a post from Chris Pirillo


Add to iTunes | Add to YouTube | Add to Google | RSS Feed

A bully is a bully, no matter who or where they are. It doesn’t matter if they are online, or out there in the “real” world. I’ve suffered at the mouths and hands of a bully in my life. As soon as I accepted myself for who I am and not who they thought or said I am, it no longer bothered me. They were the ones with the problem, not me. You’ve probably been the victim of a cyber-bully at some point. They are everywhere, since the anonymity of the Internet makes it easy for them to attack people. If you’re someone who attacks people and makes them ashamed of who they are, stop it! There’s no easier way to lose my respect, than to disrespect someone else.

Kyle sent me the following email, and his list of top five tips to deal with bullies.

I recently was told by someone on Facebook that I was a loser and had no friends, along with many other hurtful comments. I decided to create this list in an attempt to help others deal with bullies.

  1. Be Mature How bad would it sound if you responded: “OMG ur da real luzer, I h8 you”. Instead, you may want to respond “I’m sorry you feel that way about me, I guess you don’t really know me”, or something along those lines.
  2. Don’t Even Respond If you respond, it will just give the bully another thing to find a way to make fun of.
  3. Block Communications There is a way on all forms of cyber communication to block a person or persons, so why keep talking to them?
  4. Don’t let it get you down You should never let them win by letting them put you down, understand that they don’t mean what they’re saying, and that they are just trying to make themselves feel better.
  5. In some circumstances, confront them If they’re not known to be the kind of person who would physically beat you up, you may want to ask them why they have a problem with you in real life, because it is so much harder to say mean things about people in real life than it is when they are not directly talking to you.

Kyle has made many excellent point. Remember that the problem lies with the bully, not with you. Don’t let someone beat you up mentally, and force you to feel awful about yourself. It’s not about you… it’s about them. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that maybe they’re right. Accept and like yourself who you are. Don’t listen to people who don’t know you, yet try to bring you down with negativity.

Want to embed this video on your own site, blog, or forum? Use this code:

]]> http://chris.pirillo.com/are-you-a-bully-or-a-victim/feed/ 10 How to Handle Remote Tech Support <em>Using <a href="http://www.gotoassist.com/chris">GoToAssist</a> is the easiest way to view and control another person's computer online. Use it to provide instant technical support to family, friends and customers. Start a session with just one click, and instantly connect with the other party. </em> chris@lockergnome.com (Chris Pirillo) Partner Mon, 13 Jul 2009 06:30:00 GMThttp://gotoassist.com/chris/ http://gotoassist.com/chris/ Network Tools for Windows You need these network tools, no matter which operating systems and networks you have to support. <a href="http://support.solarwinds.com/updates/New-Customer.cfm?ProdID=568&campaign=ipmon_DL_lockergnome&CMP=BAC-ipmonDL_lockergnome">SolarWinds ipMonitor</a>: Affordable Network Monitoring for SMBs. Get turnkey network, server and application availability monitoring with SolarWinds ipMonitor v9.0. This easy-to-use, reliable solution for SMBs delivers out-of-the-box availability monitoring so you always know exactly what's up with Active Directory, DNS, Exchange, FTP, Web, IMAP, MS SQL Server, and SMTP. <a href="http://support.solarwinds.com/updates/New-Customer.cfm?ProdID=568&campaign=ipmon_DL_lockergnome&CMP=BAC-ipmonDL_lockergnome">Download your free trial today</a>. Or, try their <a href="http://www.solarwinds.com/products/freetools/">totally free tools</a>! And, through 2/29, save 20% when you purchase <a href="http://store.solarwinds.com/s.nl/sc.16/.f">ipMonitor 9.0</a>. chris@lockergnome.com (Chris Pirillo) Partner Mon, 25 Feb 2008 06:30:00 GMThttp://support.solarwinds.com/updates/New-Customer.cfm?ProdID=568&campaign=ipmon_DL_lockergnome&CMP=BAC-ipmonDL_lockergnome http://support.solarwinds.com/updates/New-Customer.cfm?ProdID=568&campaign=ipmon_DL_lockergnome&CMP=BAC-ipmonDL_lockergnome Get Your Own Web Site Starting at just $3.99/month, web hosting from <a href="http://www.godaddy.com/gdshop/default.asp?isc=cp2">GoDaddy</a> includes 99.9% uptime, 24/7 support and free access to GoDaddy Hosting Connection, THE place to install over 30 FREE applications sure to help you get the most from your hosting plan and Web site. Enter <a href="http://www.godaddy.com/gdshop/default.asp?isc=cp2">code CP2</a> at checkout, and save an additional 10% on any order. <p>Plus, as a friend of Chris Pirillo, enter code <a href="http://www.godaddy.com/gdshop/default.asp?isc=chris7">CHRIS7</a>, that's C-H-R-I-S and the number 7, when you check out, and save an additional 10% on any order. Get your piece of the internet at <a href="http://www.godaddy.com/gdshop/default.asp?isc=chris7">GoDaddy.com</a>.</p> chris@lockergnome.com (Chris Pirillo) Partner Mon, 25 Feb 2008 06:30:00 GMThttp://www.godaddy.com/gdshop/default.asp?isc=cp1 http://www.godaddy.com/gdshop/default.asp?isc=cp1 VMware and Parallels for Virtual Machines It doesn't matter if you're running on Windows or Mac OS X - every power user needs either <a href="http://send.onenetworkdirect.net/z/13766/rn_a32755/">Parallels</a> or <a href="http://send.onenetworkdirect.net/z/17081/rn_a32755/">VMware</a> (or both). There's never been an easier way to test software without destroying your primary operating system's stability. Think of how many times you wish you could press a 'reverse' button on your computer. Plus, there's no easier way to try new Linux distributions - see what all the fuss is about. Run Windows in OS X, run Linux in Windows, but the best way to do either is with <a href="http://send.onenetworkdirect.net/z/17081/rn_a32755/">VMware</a> and/or <a href="http://send.onenetworkdirect.net/z/13766/rn_a32755/">Parallels</a>. chris@lockergnome.com (Chris Pirillo) Partner Mon, 25 Feb 2008 06:30:00 GMThttp://chris.pirillo.com/2008/02/19/parallels-or-vmware/ http://chris.pirillo.com/2008/02/19/parallels-or-vmware/ Coupons for Online Shopping <p style="color: red">This feed is fueled by Lockergnome <a href="http://www.lockergnome.com/buy/">Online Shopping and Coupon Codes</a></p> <p> Before you shop next time, see if we have <a href="http://coupons.lockergnome.com/">a coupon</a> first. </p> chris@lockergnome.com (Chris Pirillo) Partner Sat, 12 Jul 2008 07:56:13 GMThttp://coupons.lockergnome.com/ http://coupons.lockergnome.com/