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How To Be a Loser

There are times when I consider myself to be a loser. I know that nearly everyone I’ve ever talked to goes through this at some point. There’s always something about ourselves we find lacking… something which makes us a loser in those areas. When it comes to doing outdoors-y things, I’m definitely in that particular class. It’s no secret that I’m not an athlete. I don’t much like boating or hiking – and we’ve established I’m not very good at either of them. However, I am quite confident in other areas of my life. I wouldn’t say that I’m an overall loser, and neither are most people I come in contact with. I wish I could say the same about everyone I connect with or come across.

Sadly, I see a lot of douchebags on the Internet during my travels around the web each day. These particular people are in a class all alone, and I would be more than willing to outright point the big LOSER sign at them. What earns them this less-than-prestigious title? I’m not only referring to comment trolls or those who have nothing better to do than spew anonymous venom around the Net. I’m talking about the ones we may bump into at an event, or the ones who insist on trying to dominate the conversation during an online chat. You know who I’m talking about, right?

It’s easy to be this type of loser: you simply have to yap your trap endlessly about topics which you know nothing about to people who don’t really care. Let’s rephrase that a bit, shall we? One of the fastest ways to be dismissed by your peers is to run your mouth and attempt to talk over everyone in a given situation. This is even more true if you don’t really know what you’re talking about. Others are going to see right through you – and stop listening to you – if you try to BS your way through by dancing around the real topic.

You want to be accepted and respected? It’s simple: learn when to speak and when to hush. Listening is just as important – if not MORE so – than talking. This holds true in both business and social situations. You’re not going to appear more intelligent if you talk a lot. Make sure people want to hear what you have to say. Watch their body language – it’s a great cue as to whether they’re truly interested. Stop for breath once in a while, and ask their opinions on the subject at hand. Make sure you’re actually paying attention to their answer… you may just learn something new.

Being a loser isn’t about not being the best at what you do and know. It’s a state of mind – YOUR mind.

Your Opinion is the Only One That Matters


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Yes, it’s true – the world revolves around you – and only you! Your opinion is the only one that matters, right? No one else on this planet counts. No one cares what they think. Right?

Wrong.

You may not like something, but that doesn’t mean that others won’t. What someone finds to be helpful may seem “dumb” to you. But why does that mean you should automatically dismiss or bash it?

If you don’t like something being done, it’s fine to offer advice and suggestions. It’s NOT so cool to be snide, rude and outright hostile about things – as though your opinion is the only one that matters. Try stating what you think and feel nicely… even giving actual solid suggestions… and see how much further that gets you in life.

President Obama Wants you to Play Nice on Twitter

During a live event on MTV, CMT and BET earlier today, President Obama cautioned us to behave ourselves when online. The President condemned the practice of bullying in general, cyber- or otherwise: “We have zero tolerance when it comes to sexual harassment, we have zero tolerance when it comes to harassment over a person’s sexual orientation, because of their race, their ethnicity.”

Obama hesitated to delve too deeply into the realm of online monitoring. “It is a challenging thing, because part of the power of the Internet is that information flows out there, and it’s generally not censored or controlled by any single authority.” There have been a lot of challenges made to the First Amendment as it applies to content on the Internet. Most rulings have been in favor of e-speech.

What do you think of the President’s stance against online harassment? Does he need to step up to the plate a bit harder, or is he right on the money?

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How to Handle Uncomfortable Situations in Social Media

Earlier tonight, we had a situation on Lockergnome where a brand-new member posted, claiming they were going to commit suicide. Many of our regular members rushed to reply, urging them to seek help and giving out the Suicide Prevention Hotline number. They handled it in absolutely the right way. However, there were a lot of questions afterwards. They wanted to know how they should handle these situations in the future. Many were very shaken by the incidence, and felt that we should be doing more to help… even demanding that we somehow locate the anonymous user via their IP address and call the authorities.

Unfortunately, there isn’t much we can do when something like this happens. We can offer encouragement and urge them to speak with a trusted adult, friend, religious leader or teacher. We can give them the appropriate hotline number. But we cannot DO more than that. We don’t know these people or their situations. We have no way of knowing if they are telling the truth or simply trying to troll our community. We don’t know where they live, nor even their age range much of the time. We can also end up getting into legal trouble if we start giving out actual advice.

Almost all of the time, these people are looking for attention. Either they find it funny to upset a community full of people or they have a deficiency in their lives they are trying to make up for. I’m told by a close friend in the medical field that people generally don’t go around warning the Internet if they are going to harm themselves – they simply do so. Yes, there’s always the chance that someone could be serious. And I would be heartbroken should that happen in our community. But I have no way of knowing if they are serious – just as you don’t.

If you ever come across a situation such as this, don’t try to “talk sense” into the other person. Don’t try to be their counselor. Don’t encourage them in any way. Simply give them a link or phone number to an appropriate help agency, and ask them to talk to someone they feel they can trust. You will have done literally all you can do at that point. The rest is in their hands.

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