Something To Understand
Wow. We've just returned from the PCUG and (as you can imagine) we're dead tired. I won't be able to send out the issue until tomorrow afternoon, but until then – I wanted to add a clarification to the oh-so-controversial “cleaning” post.
It's not dysfunctional to complain. By the time we had to leave for Santa Rosa this evening, everything was fine. And yes, to address one particular comment – we do argue in front of our friends. It's very healthy, and it's very natural. I'm not going to air every bit of dirty laundry that we have (mostly because she finished it today). However, I don't think we're all that unique of a married couple – we disagree and argue and yell and scream and fight and live and breathe and poop and piss and moan and drink – in the limelight or otherwise. Now is the time where I gently remind the world of one very important fact:
I'M A F@@KING HUMAN.
That, and I'm not in the doghouse. The stress has been acknowledged, dealt with, and is now in our past. I'm not someone who likes holding onto my anger – and neither is Gretchen. Whatever she posts to her blog is nothing I haven't heard or seen before – unless its her dreams. I'm happy she's sharing those with everybody else because it spares me the agony of having to relive them in the early morning hours. Oh, come on. Like your significant other doesn't do something that annoys the hell out of you?! This is therapy, folks. But not for us – for YOU. That'll be $150.00. Please pay the receptionist on your way out.
In short, it's okay. Don't sweat it. Don't worry about the marriage. Don't forget your sense of humor. Don't stop posting comments. Don't stop thinking about tomorrow. Don't go changing to try to please me. Don't turn around, uh oh. Don't you know that other kids are starving in Japan?
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10 Comments
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 1:06am
I thought it was those Chinese kids who were starving.
How do you fook a human anyways? Enquiring minds want to know!!!
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 1:08am
So…uh…the new Napster beta is out. I will have screenshots on my site as soon as it goes back up. Ugh.
It's pretty nice from what I've seen, though.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 3:48am
Not only that, but you are a “LIVING” F@@KING HUMAN. Take a break from the rat-race and rebalance things, please.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 5:36am
coo. life isn't like anything my mother used to say, everything is like life. so there you have it.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 6:32am
Chris, good job of explaining to everyone that, yes, married people do argue. I am sure that the people who replied to yesterday's post that aren't married will be in for the shock of their life when they are married. I know I was. When I was single I had this idealized vision of how perfect married life was going to be and then I got married and discovered the same thing that EVERY relatively newly married couple discovers…you are going to argue. It doesn't mean you hate each other or that you need a divorce lawyer, it means that you are human.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 12:39pm
Don't Kill The Whale!
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 12:43pm
Christin and I keep it at home and off the blogs, for the most part. Our marriage is ours and our little fights we keep between ourselves. Rationale: Other people we know are way more likely to remember our fights and what we said about eachother than we are. Then after the fight is over they'll come back and say “how come you're not mad? after what they did to you!” and we would get all upset again… Silly. We just keep it between us. Having said that lemme say there is no right way or wrong way – just the way that works. I like to say that the difference between Chrisitn and I and other married couples who divorce is that we have “reconcilable” differences and we're reconciling them EVERY DAY! :-P That's humor. I also don't blog about our spats because I'm ususally the jerk who starts them somehow.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 1:08pm
I replied to yesterdays post trying to bring some humor outta all of the fighting by using the doghouse thing. i didnt mean to sound like you guys werent humans.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 1:17pm
No worries. I caught and appreciated the humor – which wasn't the problem. When people take things I write WAY TOO seriously, I have a problem. As my dad used to say, lighten up. Half of what I write is done tongue-in-cheek. At least you now know that I suffer from cynical OCD.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2002
at 1:34pm
Good to see you guys having a little fun in your blogs. I get tired of reading the fluff that some other people write. Glad to know you're REAL and not afraid to show it.