Comments on: I had Death Threats in High School

By: L

Fri, 17 Jul 2009 06:00:52 +0000

stalkers/bullies are whack o’s !

By: D

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 10:50:06 +0000

I had to deal with only one other bully in my life but this guy done it to everyone in school because he had hate and anger & no one liked him so he went to bully ppl to make him self feel better well he dropped out of school after getting threats from kids to kick his butt he relized no one was gonna take his crap any longer for being a bully and he could not take it either so both sides were equal ! But I think for an adult to cyber bully people & kids online is just sick and cruel ! What is wrong with this world it is so messed up this woman online gets her one friend & her to gang up on people in chats no matter how old they are these two people are adults woman & man so stuff like this makes me sick to my stomach at one point there was one person they would pick on in a chat not caring it if was a teen or adult like them ! So greentea143 & Docredisback may need some serious help or start thinking before they threaten people and kids ! Does this make them feel better or maybe they get a kick? I don’t care they both need to grow up & act like the adults they are just makes me sick these two can still be online and threaten/bully people !

By: D

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 10:42:21 +0000

This woman keeps going on people’s names pretending to be them & making up many things that are untrue can she be a stalker and/or just a nut case?

By: D.P. Anderson

D.P. Anderson — Fri, 29 May 2009 21:48:14 +0000

Unfortunately, I have to disagree with some points of your blog. I have dealt with the bullies you talked about, the chauvinistic, barbaric brutes that they were. However, from that environment, I learned to adapt, to grow quicker and smarter, and to survive. You see, when you can outsmart a bully and insult him in a way that he doesn’t even understand, it’s something you can laugh at on the inside, and he just won’t give a shit. When it comes to conflict, choosing your battles becomes a must. I’m not talking about fist fights, nor am I talking about grabbing the nearest blunt object, but I’m talking about the basics of self-defense in utilizing your opponent’s strength against him. Nothing screams “don’t screw with me bub!” like moving out of the way of a punch and then twisting the arm of the bully around behind his back, only to kick out the back of his knee and put him into submission with your foot on his ankle. Key pressure points to save your life, along with a situation to save your life, and maybe even the bullies. Who knows, from that one encounter, he could learn to pick his fights better, and won’t go brawling against Mr. Packing-a-revolver down at the local bar.

I detest though. While yes, bullying happens, and why yes, I do agree it should stop, I don’t think that drawing attention to it is the right way to do it. Yes there is power in numbers, but in the bullies’ eyes, that’s just a bigger crowd and a bigger audience. When you can learn to stand up, to say “Screw you, I’m not going to fight you, but if you attack me, I’m going to defend myself and make you regret throwing that punch” then, you have truly defeated a bully. Why? Their mind understands two things. Power, and dominance. Speak their language, and you can bend them to your will. Does that make you as horrible as them? No. Why? You use defense for yourself, and not to terrorize others…

Whoever reads this, know this, if you are threatened and fear for your life, get help, and make sure above all else you can help yourself because one day you WILL be standing alone against your fears, threats, and pains.

Sorry for the long post.

By: D

Tue, 26 May 2009 03:47:03 +0000

So sad ! I had this woman making deaths threats against me and another woman & her kids and the internet service had all info and proof of what she said she’s done it more then once and nothings been done about this woman online making death threats against military families, women & their kids greentea143 a.k.a. chr057 ppl needs to be stopped from doing these kinds of things no matter where.

By: etbe » Blog Archive » death threats against Kathy Sierra

etbe » Blog Archive » death threats against Kathy Sierra — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 14:53:13 +0000

[...] It’s also an issue that is causing a lot of discussion on the net. The strange thing is that a large portion of the discussion seems based on the idea that what happened to Kathy is somehow unusual. The sexual aspect of the attacks on Kathy is bizarre but campaigns of death threats are far from unusual in our society. The first post I saw to nail this is the I had death threats in high school blog entry. Death threats and campaigns of intimidation are standard practice in most high schools. After children are taught that such things are OK for six years straight it’s hardly a surprise that some of them act in the same manner outside school! [...]

By: Mercurial » Blog Archive » Death threats

Mercurial » Blog Archive » Death threats — Wed, 18 Apr 2007 21:51:20 +0000

[...] Times do change, and in this country, the USA, it is still a criminal offense to make a death threat. They do go on, however, as Chris Prillo points out: It’s worse when you know who that person is – or if they’re not all that anonymous in the first place. I’ve dealt with my fair share of bullies (both before and after high school) – and in a few cases, was able to weather the situations long enough to seek some sort of resolution with the other parties. [...]

By: Fear of writing

Fear of writing — Sun, 08 Apr 2007 13:03:23 +0000

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By: etbe: death threats against Kathy Sierra

etbe: death threats against Kathy Sierra — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 07:04:16 +0000

[...] The prominent blogger and author Kathy Sierra has recently cancelled a tutorial at a conference after receiving death threats.Obviously this is a matter for the police to investigate – and the matter has been reported to them.It’s also an issue that is causing a lot of discussion on the net. The strange thing is that a large portion of the discussion seems based on the idea that what happened to Kathy is somehow unusual. The sexual aspect of the attacks on Kathy is bizarre but campaigns of death threats are far from unusual in our society. The first post I saw to nail this is the I had death threats in high school blog entry. Death threats and campaigns of intimidation are standard practice in most high schools. After children are taught that such things are OK for six years straight it’s hardly a surprise that some of them act in the same manner outside school!But I don’t expect anything to change. Columbine apparently didn’t convince anyone who matters that there is a serious problem in high-schools, I don’t expect anything else to.I can clearly remember when I first heard about the Columbine massacre, a colleague told me about it and explained that he barracked for the killers due to his own experiences at high-school. While my former colleague probably had not given his statements much consideration, any level of support for serial-killers is something to be concerned about.This is not to trivialise Kathy’s experience. But I think that discussion should be directed at more fundamental problems in society instead of one of the symptoms. If the causes are not addressed then such things will keep happening. [...]

By: garyshort.org - » Kathy Sierra Recieves Death Threats!!

garyshort.org - » Kathy Sierra Recieves Death Threats!! — Wed, 04 Apr 2007 11:27:51 +0000

[...] http://chris.pirillo.com/2007/03/26/i-had-death-threats-in-high-school/ [...]

By: Roy Belmont

Roy Belmont — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 17:34:33 +0000

Problem’s with the human race as it’s now configured. Which is not to say being bullied by a sabertooth tiger or some kind of shadowy night-stalking carnivorous giant ground sloth was a walk in the park.
We’ve created a refuge from the carnal flux of metabolizing that is the natural world red in tooth claw and intention. But within that refuge things aren’t all nice and sweet for everyone. A higher percentage than it used to be maybe, and from that higher percentage come these cries of outrage at what most kids on the bottom rungs of the economy deal with all the time.
Lots of calls for the officially designated agencies to step in, something missing from your post is that option, snitching off the perpetrators, which it seems you didn’t pursue.
And it’s tangential but interesting that those same official agencies get their mandate from a government that right now is doing large violence to people, many of them relatively or entirely innocent and helpless, and threatening more of the same to others.
Of course that would be happening somewhere else, some place almost virtual in its distance from the day-to-day of those most outraged by the scurrilous treatment of Ms. Sierra.
In Sierra’s case it’s been by anonymous cowards.
Which is key. Not the anonymity, but the safety it entrails for what are already cowardly souls.
Bullies are essentially, most of the time, cowards who feel safe.
Cowards who feel safe are almost always prone to sadistic cruelty.
And cowardice is really the issue, all the way around.

By: Mickipedia

Mickipedia — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 07:00:44 +0000

It wasn’t ok in high school and it isn’t ok now. As far as I know, no one involved in Kathy’s situation is in high school. Shouldn’t we have learned something by now about how to treat people with respect? I think that’s what Kathy was getting at when she said that the culture of the blogosphere needs to be re-examined. Whether the people she called out directly are responsible for the threats or not, they do play a role in defining that culture. If you think it’s ok to allow this kind of bullying to take place, you are part of the problem.

As we can all see by the level of trash-talking that she has received by going public with this, it took a lot of balls for Kathy to post what she did.

Online/offline – it makes no difference in how a threat impacts someone. The internet is real life. It’s time we all start treating it that way.

By: humorlessbitch: Big Stink In Little China

humorlessbitch: Big Stink In Little China — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 04:22:40 +0000

[...] Big Stink In Little China Yesterday (Tuesday, now that I post this) was kind of a gaggy day, in this little corner of the web. And it is little. I’m not sure some of the well-known bloggers involved really comprehend that. Least of all, the perps of Tuesday’s big stink.I’m not even going to bother to preface this with all the “I identify with you as a woman” crap, because that should be a given. Not that there were many givens—which are, after all, the product of trust—around yesterday.What showed up instead, en masse, was a lot of ego-underbelly. The dark side of narcissism. Disowned, projected content, with that fabulous mob-mentality willingness to point the finger.Finger, what am I saying. They named names, numbers, URLs. People, read my lips: this is something healthy adults do not do.And you could count them on one hand, the adults.As to the many “friends” who rushed to defend Kathy … WT F were you thinking? Are people so bloody eager to belong, so profoundly immature … it disheartens me. That’s not support, it’s not friendship, and certainly not what a person in trauma needs, idjits! Get a clue, read a book, something!Apparently, we must also review basic civil rights: No one is free to accuse a suspected other in public this way, name names, organize vendettas or any other similar damn thing … unless, of course, you believe in vigilante justice. So crude, so not nice.No matter how very special you are. No matter, even, if disgusting things have been posted about your wife—outrage, yes. Posses, no. Let me see, also bandied about by some leading lights were: vilification,isolation, shunning … prison, FCS. Them’s some mighty big underbellies. Some mighty brave pajama people.Now we come to the nub of things. Miss Tara Rogue Hunt’s blog, where I had wandered onto the comment thread that fateful afternoon.”If you are part of the swarm of mean kids that come around to just be disruptive without making a point, you will be deleted. Say what you came to say … you aren’t clever. You are mean.”Talk about riveting. Instantly, the discussion became like one of those accident scenes where everything unfolds in slow-motion, with sirens and flashing lights just around the corner.And Miss Tara Rogue soon got down to her nub.”I don’t want to sound like Oprah or any of these really slimy things the “guffaw brigade” is indicating below (they remind me of the mean kids in high school who used to draw pictures of me with zits all over and laugh at my expense) … I guess I want us to get real and human.”A many-headed nub, as nubs so often are, and we ought not to be surprised. That is compassion, not the rush to fawn, but letting people speak for themselves—and listening. Carefully.Tuesday night’s Dan Fost Tech Chronicles column: (revised, small mercies, for Wednesday’s paper)”Tara Hunt, of San Francisco, who had been the original target of Locke’s ‘Mean Kids’ site (she had coined the term after getting flamed for suggesting that companies need to find a ‘higher purpose’) …”Which isn’t quite true, or factual. Is it. Clearly that’s how you felt; the astonishing thing (do I need to say this?) is the latitude you cut for yourself as a result. “‘Chris Locke is a sad soul who blames the world for his lack of success,’ Hunt said when I reached her on the phone today. ‘He’s constantly broke and angry. He calls himself rageboy. All that anger makes him very hard to work with.’”Without condescension, Tara Rogue, but because this is somewhat within my purview, I offer you one thought: Stop all that fucking Twittering and get your ass into therapy.No one acts out that dramatically and harmfully to another who has integrated their dark side … and the dark side is what this is really all about.p.s. “Guffaw brigade” is a really witty start.Labels: adulthood, blogging, kathy sierra, mean kids, projective identification, rageboy, tara hunt, vigilante justice [...]

By: Gernot Hassenpflug

Gernot Hassenpflug — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 06:20:59 +0000

Interesting post, and ditto for the comments. Japan is considered a safe country. I was discussing large cities with a fellow teacher, in the wake of this week’s murder of a young female English teacher by a student, who buried her body in sand in his bath before fleeing his apartment. In many Western cities, safe and unsafe depend on physical, tangible, things: place, what you drive or wear, and who you are with. We learn easily to avoid carrying expensive items in public, or avoid areas known to be unsafe. In Japan, on the contrary, with the large number of mentally unstable people, it is much harder to be sure where and when one is safe, and this puts a lot of pressure on already stressed-out people, further driving up the number of mental cases.

By: Big Pink Cookie - Creative Geek » Cyberstalking and Fear Online…

Big Pink Cookie - Creative Geek » Cyberstalking and Fear Online… — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 02:35:26 +0000

[...] I am glad that this whole thing has people talking and thinking about it. I am glad it has gotten people’s attention. I think it is great that people are thinking about it. Now, as my post yesterday mentioned, we need to find a way to put some positive karma back out into the world. What are we going to do about this? Beyond education, is there anything we CAN do about it? Because as Chris Pirillo pointed out, this isn’t unique to teh internets – it happens in real life too. [...]