Comments on: How to Survive Being an Assistant to a Porn Star

By: Christine

Christine — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 03:23:19 +0000

Fascinating! I enjoyed reading some of the scenarios you have posted in your blog as well! It never ocurred to me that such a job existed, so you have given me a wonderful insight into a different world.

By: Krystyn

Krystyn — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 04:27:21 +0000

Bow-Chica-Bow-Bow…. cue Fluffer?! Don’t worrry, I won’t be asking any stupid questions. I have a many weird visions running through my head now, though – only bc the word PORN will do that. You know that…

Thanks for the informative reading, I was amused and entertained.

Bow-Chica-Bow-Bowww…
I can’t get that out of my head now, thank you.

By: Thomas Hunt

Thomas Hunt — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 17:06:01 +0000

Now, how does one GET this job?
I mean, as one who has probobly seen your employers (I think the odds are for it by now) I’ve never seen a job posting, or even thought ‘Jee, they seem stressed. Maybe I could help by becoming an ass-istant’

By: giles

giles — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 04:32:36 +0000

I enjoyed reading this in that icky watching-Trainspotting-so-I-don’t-have-to-live-it sort of way. Important survival lessons, but also a lot of good information on how not to be That Guy!

By: Ang

Ang — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 22:30:06 +0000

Realistically, yes, this can go for any personal assistant job, but it’s particularly important for people in the adult industry. This is a very well put together How-To. While I’m not an escort or a personal assistant, I’ve been in the adult industry for coming up on 5 years now, and have met some of the most brilliant, business minded and truly wonderful people here. Service work is right – great article.

By: TKPope

TKPope — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 22:13:29 +0000

Amber’s job is definitely interesting and unusual, but that doesn’t mean that she isn’t deserving of some simple respect. It’s amazing that she had to come up with a set of rules for these dudes. I would hope that some of these clueless guys read her post and her blogs to see how they should arrange one of these appointments.

And I hope she let’s me break Rule #5 some day. ;)

+<|:-)

By: BBQ

BBQ — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 21:33:23 +0000

Amber, those are very eye-opening facts about your unique job. It still amazes me how some guys can be so stupid over the phone, and act so retarded sometimes. I wish that I could be one of those lucky guys that gets to talk to you over the phone though. You’re right though, the people that you work for are some of the nicest people that a person can ever hope to meet.

By: chiizus

chiizus — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 20:40:32 +0000

Interesting article. Don’t think I’d have the patience to deal with the weirdos though. I have a hard enough time dealing with normal people at my job. Sounds like you’re good at what you do though!

By: Matt Searles

Matt Searles — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:27:45 +0000

Wow, that’s fascinating. I’ve had very little contact with adult industry stuff in my life.. went to a strip club once.. and I have a good friend who writes erotica.. ( and got in some hassle when the pr company he works for found out.. ) And then there’s that guy who did the adult industry marketing research I know.. who had nothing positive to say about the people he met.. Oh I guess there was a girl I knew online who did a little porn.. and told me to keep an open mind about the people who work in the industry..

So to me the adult industry is a very mysterious thing.. and you just wonder what life / the world looks like from the other side of the fence. It sound kind of wonderfully.. crazy from your post.. Great post

By: Rissa

Rissa — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 13:14:12 +0000

The way a lot of the men misunderstand your role (possible alternate and/or phonesex mate) applies nicely to almost every job I’ve had (ones which people don’t know or understand very much about) It seems that people decide, “Oh, this is what s/he REALLY does,” and then act/speak/expect based on that notion, no matter how flawed, rather than ask.
Also, it just goes to show there aren’t many “fun jobs”….

By: marline

marline — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 07:45:12 +0000

Thank you for sharing! I loved it. I found your atricle extremely informative and entertaining! Keep up the good work :)

By: XCHRODE

XCHRODE — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 06:04:09 +0000

However, as fun as this job sounds, I am sure that the pressure is enormous to stay with in the boundaries. For this I do not envy your job, however I do envy the perks you may get from doing this job. As always amber you are the greatest.

By: XCHRODE

XCHRODE — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 05:58:07 +0000

This sounds like an sweet job. Amber you are the greatest no matter what.

By: Jon

Jon — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 05:43:51 +0000

Thank you for posting this.

It was thoughtful and funny, and goes a long way to humanizes a portion of our population that is often dehumanized.

Now my question…do you think the above comment is referring to escorts, or assistants?

Jon

By: Auryn

Auryn — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 04:45:05 +0000

The odd underline thingies that pop up in the article are rather amusing. I know it’s just for advertising but it makes me think that those words are very important to the sentence. And “service job” in the first sentence under item 2 made me giggle.

This job has got to look interesting on a resume.