Comments on: Giving Relationship Advice

By: Earl The Pearl

Earl The Pearl — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 19:28:38 +0000

LET HER A#@% GO-OOOOWA!!
She is just playing you like a yo-yo dude. After awhile even that plays out, the string comes off the hand and set aside…WHY?, Because like everything else it just get old. As for your girlfriend ya just get tired of the love motion sickness,up and down-up and down where it stops nobody knows!…just by texting it here makes me green in the face.

The newnest has worn off. $$$ may play an important status in your life. you must have a good job or carreer with high end monies, a nice car~ any woman is attracted to it, even if you have a house will tell them that you are ready for a real relationship and want to start a family. Believe me many other women also see your poteintial and want it too.

But you will never know if your in and out girlfriend keeps your mind distracted, your eyes blind from other female prospects (who just might be meant for you). I can almost garrentee that your girlfriend knows this too and might be affraid of letting you go until her transition with her other victim/s are final.

People will say anything to get ahead from lying on job apps, taxes, credit cards and so on. I know for sure that when the sex is low or it’s not satifing her anymore for what ever reason and you get less and less each time, then there is someone else in the picture that she is giving it to.

Don’t be a fool again , I am pointing out the tree that you are about to collide with or the man hole you are about to fall into and I say “HEY WATCH OUT!!” If you have never listen or heard any advice before please pay attention to this one. The reason she keeps coming back is because the one who promised her a rose garden never bought her a rose garden or a yard to put it in.

By holding on to you who is her safty net…you know uh, just in case what ever she doing don’t go through the way she thought or the other guy/female changed their mind about her. Whos to know maybe she’s getting what she is doing to you.

The Bilble says “Do onto others as you want onto you” and so far you are going to have a great future!! I don’t know about her unless you want to carry exrta stress on your journey.
You only have two choices to make…”To Be or Not To Be”

Get your mind in the play and eliminate you feeling for her even though you are still in love with your yo-yo…untie the string…and set it to the side~find another toy to play with dude.

By: jsf

jsf — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 23:48:06 +0000

All relationships are different. All people are different. But what I’ve come to recognize is that we have different “love languages” which are essentially five different ways people feel loved. Whether that be by gifts or hugs or surprises or whatever. To find what your love language is, I suggest reading “the 5 love languages” which explains each five that he designates.

By: Travis McCrea

Travis McCrea — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 08:43:35 +0000

Holy shit, when i read the post… i thought i was the one who had asked the question since the EXACT same thing happened to me about a month ago after the SAME situation.

we are like relationship twins!

By: Rod

Rod — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 04:03:11 +0000

This is, BY FAR, not the best advice. I don’t mean to yell, just to emphasize.

The problem is, nobody here knows who this guy is. Maybe he’s doing a lot of things terribly wrong and… should we still stand by his side? Why the hell does the girl keep saying she wants to be with him, but can’t be with him?

Yeah, there’s no judgement here, because I don’t know him as well. I’m only saying we should think, consider and hear a lot before jumping on to something like that. We don’t even know what the problem is.

By: Cliffystones

Cliffystones — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:28:07 +0000

I believe it goes “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!”

Many, many years ago I was in a similar situation. This girl was (physically) was a cross between Rene Russo and Drew Barrymore. And the word “No” wasn’t in her vocabulary.

Not being able to witness the relationship first-hand, Chris offers the best advice. Our perception of love is as varied as the number of people on the planet. This girl may not even have the same idea of love as her boyfriend.

To the girlfriend I mentioned above, a relationship was just a means to an end. In my case the “end” was transportation, as I had a nice car! As soon as she realized she that I wanted more that a “p-o-a”, she simply found someone else with a nicer hot rod whose needs were more “basic”.

By: Thirteen

Thirteen — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 03:54:34 +0000

Here is the big question. What would happen if you were to talk marriage? And I mean the perminant kind not the hollywood kind.

If she doesn’t “love” you (btw love is not a noun (feeling) it’s a verb (action). You by your actions choose to love someone.

You have chosen to love someone, who has chosen not to return the action. Time to sever that unhealthy relationship.

By: Barum

Barum — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:15:20 +0000

Bravo, Chris.
I don’t think you missed a single point.
If it had been me, I might have emphasized the emotional abuse aspect a bit more. The poor kid has been (emotionally) beaten like a red-headed step-child, as they say around here.

Freedman, it’s time to get the duck outta fodge. She’ll eventually make you into the type of person that is incapable of having a normal relationship.

By: Jake

Jake — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:16:26 +0000

Chris your right find a better girl in your life like ponzi shes hot and sweet and she is probably good in bed =)

By: endblockclip8

endblockclip8 — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 19:43:14 +0000

100% Agree. Time for a clean break.

By: CoffeeHSchmuck

CoffeeHSchmuck — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 14:43:05 +0000

Note to Freedman: Chris is right on target with his advice
When a Girlfriend acts that way,You still have the oppertunity to get out of Dodge,the Further the relationship goes,the Harder it gets to break apart.
a relationship has to be contributed to by BOTH people,If you are pleasing Her but she is Annoying you then only one person is happy and it wont work.
Remember Also,the best barometer of Future behaviour is PAST behaviour

By: Peter

Peter — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 14:12:09 +0000

Great advice Chris!! Not knowing if she loves him, must mean she doesn’t… how can you “not know”?

Love is something that is pretty obvious. If you love someone, you love them unconditionally. No matter what, you’ll always know you love them.

You may be unhappy, but you’ll know the love is there.

Peter

By: Bill Webb

Bill Webb — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 10:35:20 +0000

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. As much as we want to think so, people rarely change their basic behavior without much pain, soul-searching and a lot of help.

You be the judge, Freedman. If you really want to live up to your screen name, it ain’t gonna happen until you make the changes YOU need to make. The only person you can change is yourself.

By: Leivur R. Djurhuus

Leivur R. Djurhuus — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 09:58:15 +0000

Try the “hard to get” approach, before you cut all bonds with her.
Say that you want too to other stuff, when she asks you too spend time together. Spend the weekend with your mates, go to the movies, bowling alley etc..

She will than figure out if she really wants to chase after you or not, and that´s when you know if you should continue spending time with her.

I know, because I have been through the same thing

Best wishes :)

By: 4four1ones

4four1ones — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 05:43:23 +0000

Well said Chris. Nice Bush quote there! Too funny. I LOL’d at that post. Great advice for that broken hearted dude.

@4four1ones
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By: Kevin

Kevin — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 05:16:07 +0000

Good advice.

I don’t normally recommend this book to guys, but in this case, it could help out “Freedman.” He should check out “He’s just not that into you.” It’s more written from the guy not being that into the girl, but it will equally apply and help Freedman clue on and have the strength to move on.

Kevin