Facing Death

Both Anita and Marc have left us… and it’s just now starting to sink in. TheMacinjosh is one friend who responded to something I posted to YouTube the other day:

I just watched your video about your friends that recently passed away…and I can tell they obviously meant a lot to you, as they did to many others and I’m sorry to hear about the sad news. I have been thinking about how we all have to face death too, probably in another capacity though…and my thoughts have been brought on by anxiety issues I’ve had lately, but still…it’s been really bothering me. It’s just that I want to believe that our consciousness lives on somehow, but it’s really difficult to fathom what we even could experience after this life. I just hope I can find some sort of reassurance before my time comes, because to be honest I am scared, especially knowing that life is such a fragile thing and there really is no guarantee that we will all have each other the next day, or hour or whatever. I completely agree that we need to not take anyone for granted, whether we encounter people in real life or virtually.

This is the video he’s talking about:

I mentioned Marc and Gnomedex in my first post about his heart attack – and someone accused me of using the tradgedy as a way to plug the conference. Nothing could have been further from the truth, and I’ve read more than a few blogs about Marc’s passing which specifically reference meeting him at Gnomedex. Hey, that was the last time some of us saw him – myself included.

Leave it to Scoble to find one of my old Flickr photos – and this may very well be the only photo to ever have been taken with both Marc and Anita in it:

Seattle Geek Dinner

Take care, gang…

24 thoughts on “Facing Death”

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  3. Chris, Classy job of remembering friends in your large community. As I’m aging (59 going for 60), the number of people in my life leaving this world keeps increasing. Two weeks after loosing my brother brings the emotions even closer to home. I was doing a blog post trying to explain friends in one’s online community to those that aren’t as active online. About that time I watched your tribute video to Marc and Anita and felt compelled to embed it into the article. I sincerely hope I placed it in a deserving spot.

  4. Wow Chris! I think making this video took a lot of guts. Also to take the time to make a video like this to pay your respects in some aspects even though you had to do many takes of this video, I’m sure it would mean a lot to them if they were here. Sorry to hear about both of yours friends passing away and I hope you feel better soon!

  5. Wow, that was raw, straight from the heart stuff. I wish I could open up the way you have. It’s tough enough to endure such things but to do it for all to see is extraordinary. I saw this post just before leaving for work this morning and it stuck with me all day. I, and hopefully others, can take something away from your candor. Life, ours and others, is precious, fragile and finite. Appreciating the connections you’ve made, physical and virtual, is so easy and yet so often over looked. Thank You.

    Long time lurker first time poster-

    P.S. When I left home for college my parents had me call them every Sunday, still do nearly 10 years later, such a simple habit and I’m glad I do it.

  6. “someone accused me of using the tradgedy as a way to plug the conference”

    While I could understand why someone might make such a comment. That really is nasty and hitting below the belt. One article I read on this situation called it a blogging conference. Which isn’t giving full credit to what “it” really is at times. Either way people should realize that anyone with some type of soul wouldn’t be using tragedy or death to plug a project or conference. If someone has run into life issues attended a function. I see nothing wrong with making mention of that fact.

  7. I generally don’t give my views about “Death.” There are times when a person has serious thoughts regarding circumstances following the end of the existence of the body. Here is a website which might help individuals who are concerned about “Death.”
    I am not trying to push, pull or drag anyone into my beliefs, but to view information which might help.

  8. Chris… I am so sorry. Trust me, things will only get better. I know it’s hard at the moment, but it will get better. Just hang in there. You know that all your friends over in the chat room, along with Ponzi are there for you.

  9. Hey Chris,

    I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Unfortunately we all have to go through this. I know it is hard as my Grandpa died recently. Once again I’m sorry.


  10. Death, in most cultures, is a time to mourn the lose of a person. In other cultures, death is a time where we celebrate somebody’s life. I think its important to celebrate our lives everyday, and do the activites are important to us, instead of trying to please others.

  11. Chris, if anyone doubts your sincerity in the video, they don’t know what they are saying.

    It’s always sad to lose friends, let alone friends who are very close to you. I said prayers for Anita Rowland and Marc Orchant. I wish there was more I could do.

  12. My uncle died when I was 8, it made me realize that everyone I know would die eventually, as would I. It’s scary to think about.

  13. this is very sad. We are all faced with death sooner or later. We don’t expect to happened to are friends so quickly. But when it does it is not only sad, but shocking. It also kinda makes you realize how important your friends are.

    Sorry to hear this Chris

  14. Death is not something to be feared. There is life after this one. Oh, not as we know it (or maybe it is) – but something glorious.

    There is a great book that came out recently called “10 Prayers God Always says Yes to”. I highly recommend the book – it is very enlightening and I think for Macinjosh – the first prayer in the book might be the most usefull.

    This life is so fleating, we are but a drop of water in an ocean that is time, but the life after this goes on forever.

    Another book I would highly recommend is Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis. It too has reassurances about the next life and that we should not be fearful.

    His Holiness John Paul II started his pontificate by repeating the words of Christ – “Be Not Afraid”. We see so much going on around the world that makes our hair stand on end – but put your trust were it belongs and fear won’t be an option.


  15. I’m sorry about your loss. I know it’s tough facing and talking about some things, and our mortality is definitely way up there in that list. My sincere condolences friend.

  16. Chris:
    My condolences. Words are inadequate.
    But as this is the only medium we have, I’ll try.

    If you’re worried that you might not have been a `good enough’ friend, you can stop now. If you’re nothing else, you’re Chris. If they didn’t like you, they wouldn’t have been your friends. I don’t know them, but I strongly suspect they would tell you this now if they could.

    We Americans don’t do death well. Some of us more than others (my dad died when I was 6). There is no easy way to deal. You bring up the best concept: it’s about the future. It’s about what you do with it.

    You’re a good fellow to step up and put it out there for your friends.

    Lastly, consider your own legacy. We `out here’ only see the online part, but that’s pretty significant. You’ve done well.


  17. Well I have read most of the comments but!

    In 1981 I was clinicaly dead. After a motor bike accident .

    I went through the complete dying process, & I can tell you that there is nothing to be frightened about. It is a completely peaceful and charming experience.

    There is of course a great deal more. This is not the time or place to discuss it

    The only thing that life demands of you, is the courage to go for it.

    All the best


  18. Anita will always be in my heart as a connector. She had that magical ability to find the threads between people around her and connect them, all without filling the space herself. She left room for all of us to be together.

  19. Chris,
    I watched your u Tube video above. On a personal level, I could see how hard you worked to say and express your thoughts and emotions. You did well. It came through and was heartfelt. As you say, I believe we need to give each other feedback and encouragement.
    Well done and I am sorry for your loss of two such valued friends. Carla M

  20. Chris, All I can say is WOW.. Your video is powerful. I could feel your emotion. I have no idea how old you are but I have been a part of LockerGnome for many years and I believe you are my kids age. I am a 60 yr old grandmom and I wrote a book about living,loving, learning and leaving a legacy. It isn’t about what comes after or even if there is an after. It is about being the best you that you can be today and everyday. It sounds like you live your life that way and that is good. If you are interested in my book, you can find out abut it on my webpage. Be good to yourself and give yourself time to feel your losses. Time does ease the pain. I will be thinking of you and will remember your friends in my prayers. Carol

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